Makes you feel blush and more confident, when you are given such a compliment, right?
Well, there is another side to it too, we people admire someones beauty first by looking at their face, and body of course.
Fair, slim, jaw line, curvy…. perfect example of a beauty… no, no,.. take a pause.
Think again, its gonna fade all away, you are gonna develop wrinkles eventually.
Do you fall in love just by looking all those things? No, you shouldn’t!
Because thats not gonna support you in your decision, not gonna stand by with you anytime, not gonna make you laugh and neither gonna make your life happening.
But what to do, we fall in love with things like that… we love roses but not the thorn, because all the thorns do is protect the beauty of the rose.
You are smarter though, plucking the rose anyways, because you dont care if it lives or dies, what you are doing is wanting the beautiful thing.
Thus every beautiful thing gets plucked first.
There is a slight difference in wanting and needing.
You want something because its hard and challenging, but makes you happy because you are stubborn.
You need something when you know its for you benefit, and you need it to survive.
Fall in love with their souls, not the sole of their shoes, with their creative minds and not the fashion sense, their support and caring, not for their suggestion and compliments.
What i am telling is do not love someone who is beautiful, with only their beautiness and do not reject feelings because they are just not beautiful.
“Beautiful is someone who is bold in talking,beauty in thoughts, that walk of confidence everytime they enter, charm they spread by their sense of humor, who can show you things beyond being beautiful!”
You are wrong if the thought of being beautiful physically is the only meaning of beautiful.
For someone, just to prove they are beautiful, they lose themselves!
You are lovely, trust me! Dont make fool of yourselves just because the definition of beautiful is so wrong in someones perception.
We met at a cafe through some site , we chatted the whole night , feeling the cold breeze..
It was late , but we didn’t want this time to end , to stop make me feel more special.
It was nothing that day but lots of everything.
I could still feel myself lost in that place till the date ,i could feel myself wanting to get lost once again.
His eyes of curiosity to know about me , and me to get to know his nature.
I can still feel the cold wodden bench we were sitting on, under the shade at night at a distance of 5 feet.
I could hear the water running at night , wind passing by ears, cold air making our hands cold and nose red , we shared our likes and dislikes.
Next day , we shared something that was secrets of our life , shared a part of life , enough to make me fall for him.
Holding our hands , assuring about good times to come , we shared something so important that we never imagined would make us so close.
Third day, we spent our quality time , at last i found, someone i felt for..
Relieved about finally i can feel it too , i quietly smiled and slept.
Stairing him the next morning , thinking that i am one of those stupids now, who have feelings for someone like this idiot! Overloaded with love.
Soon, the time came where i was going to face the situation, shattering all over once again, realizing that there was no “us” but only “me” in this story.
Guess what! i am not the “only” girl.
I am just from one of his lists he had , so long that i would get tired of reading it.
How can i make mistake to understand someone so badly, falling for someone so deeply, caring for someone so much?i kept asking the questions, leaving a mark of trust once again! This time it was deeper than earlier.
Deeper, because this time it was my imagination and misunderstandings of hopes who betrayed me and no one else
And i am still stuck on that bench and the talk we had that night.
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“Quarantine time” for me is something more about myself , studying my behaviour , my pros and cons and thus i am grateful to this time.
Obviously! That thought was not the same initially ,everyone must be agreeing on that.
Discovering ourself is not that easy ! Would never be , and over that , improving and accepting the way we are is something everyone is struggling with.
Lets start with my first few week of quaratine ….
My thoughts then was “i want my space, i need someone , i can’t take it anymore , i am done with this quarantine , i am such a overthinker , why do i need to help in every house hold stuff , why me? , i want to sleep more ”
Well, that doesn’t mean now my thoughts are opposite but mostly i am coming out of these thoughts and trying to rule out negetivity , struggling myself to stop overthinking.
At least , i am trying , and guess what! Only trying could be this helpful , i didn’t know that.
I wake up now , do my regular stuffs like cleaning and house stuff mostly. Then giving some time to my creativity then my plants and my family.
What this time taught me was , be patient even if your hands are tied, at least u can breath.
Now , i think of doing things which i thought that i could never do it. Challenging myself in tough time , agreeing on my cons.
Most importantly , it taught me that not a single work you do is small or disrespectful , it’s all about the time we give to our thoughts , to think why ? Are we like this and why not better?
That is how i started to think in a very different way
I am 21 now , and i searched this term now! why?? i asked myself. I had this thought due to some misconceptions among st me and some very good friend of mine , i shared that friend a link of inspirational movie which was about the law mostly, but between a man and a woman , and the woman wins in it , he after watching it told me i don’t watch such a movie of feminism described in such a way!I was astonished, shocked because obviously we are such good friend and let me tell you guys the film was not about feminism but was about law , a fight between two people but of opposite sex but that friend of mine concluded it a feminist movie because the girl in movie won !
I shared that movie because for me it was inspirational , and because i am a girl i know what being feminist and act racist is! as much as i have studied myself and learned from the surrounding.
He put me in a thought to search what feminism really means. So i started googling it. I started what in my mind that exists, is what the truth is or its just my mind made definition of feminism.
Guess what!i was as correct and right about it as it says , i never should have doubted it but some people or may i say ‘important people’ makes you doubt about yourself and your thoughts.
WHAT I HAVE UNDERSTOOD TILL NOW WHAT FEMINISM IS….
I am just a girl who is curious to know our kind and our laws , right? So i am studying myself and this word ‘feminism’.
This topic is vast because as much you dig in it , you are full of informations. So i wont have any conclusion on it but my thoughts. Thus we will get this part done in numbers , like this is my 1st part about feminism and so i will keep posting further parts.
The part one was all about how i sarted writing and why i started writing about it , there is no such right or wrong things concluded at the end.
LETS GET STARTED… PART 1 : Its origin is from a french word.
I am not an expert , but a girl with thought ,i hope this wont allow you to judge me on my writing skills much , but every opinion of yours is welcome here.
Lots of information , i found it useful , let me make it short what’s written in it , i hope i cover all but do visit the link.
So , In the 1960s and 70s, feminist protests resulted in a series of laws that guaranteed, under the law, equal rights in the workplace, in universities and colleges, in health care, and in the home.
What i liked about what they have written in it is , in short , you cannot change people mind all of a sudden and more to it , change there opinions that easily. I understood that and it striked me! Why my friend acted like that before because he had very different concept in his mind.
A very simple thing i understood is , what woman are capable of, let them do it ,at least try it!Try! To see the world individually or think of that they are capable of living on their own!That doesn’t mean that you only live individually because you are a woman but let them know that there is also this type of option you can think of. People judge! Because you are a woman but they cover up by saying i understand you because you are too weak to face outside problems or solve any issues that was men work.
If they are capable , they do it and achieve it! If they are not, they will not achieve what they want , but you cannot pull them! But don’t already judge them stating things or giving examples of a failure woman or by connecting to things such as a womans work cant be done by a man and a mans work cant be done by a woman.